Happily Ever....RIGHT NOW!

You'd think by the title of my blog post that I was going to imply that age old phrase: ''..and they lived happily ever after...'' In North America, these 6 words mean that a reader can rest assured that the hero or heroine in the fairy-tale that they've just finished reading overcame a risky challenge and won the heard of their ''one-true-love'' and that, my dear friend is where mismanaged expectations that lead to extremely selfish behaviours and thus begins the spiral of disappointment.


Whatever happened to being happy, healthy and whole RIGHT NOW?! Why does it seem, for some, that savouring their current life is unfathomable and that wholeness will only be achieved when they have a better job/have a baby/have a spouse/have a house/retire/have a degree/have their first million....and the list goes on.

We get caught up in the ''what should be'' or questioning and pining for the next ''thing'' to happen in our lives that we miss out on RIGHT NOW - Who we are, how we've grown, the blood+sweat+tears that got us to where we are, who we have on our 'team' and the fact that we've been blessed beyond what we actually deserve.

At the risk or sounding like ''that girl'' who ties her real life to fiction, I had another ''big girl'' moment at the movies tonight. I went to see Sex and the City 2 (insert judgment here) and what loaded movie it was! So much great messaging - too many for this post!This time, I totally dug what Carrie and ladies had to say.

I'm certainly not one to spoil movies, but this time around Carrie, a strong independent diva gets a lesson on leaving the past behind and realizes that there is peace and power in embracing her current stage of life.

Don't get me wrong. I heart my life right now. I heart my husband and loving the adventure. But I must disclose that at the beginning of the transition into marriage, my inner 'independent diva' seemed to be in conflict with the 'interdependent partner' role that I had misunterstood 'blissfully married wifey' role. A few counselling sessions later...all is well. But there is nothing like a good ol' SATC to drive that life lesson home.

I learned...scratch that, I'm learning that there is wholeness to be savoured by understanding that I'm definitely less-than-perfect (super sensitive and at times, impatient. *gasp*) and by embracing experiences in less-than- perfect situations (work, home, commute, relations) with less-than-perfect people (hubby, family, friends, coworkers, slow walkers).

Thank you Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha. Imaginary women who, tonight, reminded me that happily ever after, is actually happily ever RIGHT NOW means that what happens now (as well as enroute to goals and dreams) can be savoured and enjoyed (especially with crazy girlfriends in designer couture).

Experiencing this legendary movie at a theatre in the part of the city where I spent most of my adult single lady life (affectionately called 'Yonge and Eligible') ...cost me 12.99

Dinner before hand...cost me $20.57

Popcorn + Drink...$11.57

Coming home to the man of my dreams and our less than perfect life adventure....priceless.


I dare you to live happily ever RIGHT NOW. Use what you've got, use your fine china, wear your pearls, appreciate your (imperfect) friends, love your (imperfect) family, see the benefits of your current (imperfect) job/course.

Share who you are right now with the world.

That is what is sexy in this city (if you ask me!)

That's all!

M